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Though Spring Training Begins, The Struggles At Home Continue
There is nothing more complex in life, I am finding out, than families. Whether it's the relationship between two brothers, kids and their parents, or a grandmother and a distant cousin, what goes on behind the closed doors of a family's life is easy to judge from the outside. But that doesn't mean he who judges knows. If you're on the outside, you may never really get in.
I am as guilty as judging and trying to uncover "the truth" as anyone. Just take a look at what I wrote here about Gabrielle Schoeneweis, the late-wife of pitcher Scott Schoeneweis. The comment alone shows just how different two outside viewpoints can be. The funny thing is, we may be both wrong. Neither one of us will ever know. At least not until we go to heaven and really find out.
And that brings us to the neverending (unfortunately) story of Leury Escobar and her estranged husband, Milwaukee Brewers shortstop Alcides Escobar. We've read and heard about them quite a bit here and other places. Over a year ago, Leury wrote about their family situation, one in which she stated Alcides abandoned her and their newborn child. Ever since, Leury has been on a public offensive, trying to bring those of us on the outside in.
I wrote about cheating in a baseball marriage at length last fall. In this column, you can see how Leury's story took shape over the past two years. Her public accusations began with a self-penned post she placed on a number of different websites. Leury was generally lambasted by readers, not necessarily unexpected. Baseball fans will nearly always side with the guy who has 5 tools.
Then there was the following comment posted last November in response to Leury's initial post. In it, the writer shows compassion and tries to wrap his mind around Leury's purpose. Take a look:
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I dont like to comment on these type of domestic disputes but in this case I feel I have to say something. First, let me say that I have a lot of sympathy towards the child involved in this case..When it comes to the mom I'm not sure what she is trying to accomplish by handling this matter in such a public way. She should take the issue to the courts and have a judge rule in the case. Her comments sound so over the top and lintense that it's hard not to think that she is traying to set the stage for a big payout day; to get money from Alcides.
She sounds more like she wants to hurt Alcides as supposed to trying to help her daughter.
I simply can sympathize with this woman . I think her motives go beyond what she is leering everyone see. She sounds desperate like someone trying to get even with and not trying to solve a problem. But again, I'm not in her schoes.
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I bring all of this up because Leury posted a reply that was worth focusing on a bit. Read it now:
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Mr. Olivares,
I think everyone is entitled to their own opinion when it comes to this matter. However, "I'm not in her shoes" is right in this case. You have no idea what Alcides Escobar has put me and my daughter through. Ofcourse all this matter can be resolved in court the only big detail here is that this man has been filing for divorce in Alabama, now Tennessee God only knows where he will file next simply looking for convenient states with child support salary caps. The only thing he and his lawyers are trying to do is deprive my daughter his own daughter from the life she is suppose to be living. I don't care about Alcides money, when I married him he had nothing to his name and my father was the one helping us both live. I am willing to put in an Education Trust Fund for my daughter 100% of the money, if I even get awarded any in my divorce.
All I want is justice for my child like any loving and caring mother would want. Nothing else. The fact that he wants to divorce me has nothing to do with our daughter. There is no reason for him to despise her so much when she is only 14 months old. Why would you screw over your own kid? What do you call that? In MY books that simply wrong and unaceptable.
All I want is for Alcides to respect the laws in the United States and follow them and not try to scam them like he's been doing lying about being a resident of these states when he clearly isn't and goes in and out of the United States with a working Visa. I am a US Citizen and so is my daughter and my daughter has rights and I will fight until the end for her rights. I'm not trying to hurt Alcides everything that has happened has happened because he is too busy living his life in complete dissaray and simply thinks that with fame and money he can easily walk away from this situation. I've tried contacting him and he doesn't care about our daughter who till this day he hasn't even called once to see how she is doing. My family, friends and God are my witness that I've tried to settle this matter Amicably, but all he wants is to follow the advice of his lawyers who are lying to make money off of him and simply doesn't care.
So like I said Mr. Olivares you are entitled to your own opinion but sometimes you have to look at all the angels and not just judge right off the back. I'm in Panama living with my parents because I can't be in the US living under a bridge with my daughter or filing for divorce which gives him the advantage of seeking the most convenient place to divorce me to screw over our daughter when it comes to child support. But ofcourse he has money and is famous and has many fans so that's okay to many. But it's not OKAY with me because its my child we are talking about not a piece of "crap" like his agents has said. The sad part is that he is trying to get away with SCREWING OVER HIS OWN CHILD. Our daughter Gabriela who is the only victim in this whole ordeal.
The daughter that one day will grow up and will want to know why he simply decided to abandon her and screw her over.
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You can easily feel her passion and rage. Personally, I think Andy, the one who made the comment, was trying to be open about the situation. In fact, he was more open-minded than most of those who commented. And, from his shoes, his questions were valid. But because Leury is the one in the situation, dealing every day with it, she takes her emotions out. Meanwhile, she does a good job of answering his questions.
How will this be resolved? Will it ever be resolved to the satisfaction of everyone? Since we aren't in it, we can only guess and hope that one day, the main player in this saga, 14-month old Gabriela, is the real winner.
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