By The Private Detective: Cheat And You Will Get Caught

Los Angeles private detective Daniel Blake wrote a very interesting comment the other day in reference to baseball players cheating on their wives.  In a nutshell, there are lots of PDs out there.  If you're going to cheat, don't do it in public and, if you have to, wear a Michael Jackson mask.

Here are his thoughts. 

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After reading Jimmy Scott's blog concerning major league ballplayers who cheat and their spouses who take them back I had to take a moment to comment.

As a licensed private investigator and a spouse who has been cheated on I can tell you from firsthand experience that finding out your spouse is cheating (in most cases) is the second most painful thing a person can ever go through. The only thing worse would be losing a child. Marriage is built on trust, a trust that enables a couple to share the most intimate parts of their life with one another. Once that trust is broken I don't believe there is ever any hope of restoring it, at least not 100%.

While I can certainly understand the various reasons a husband or wife would agree to take back a cheating spouse; I don't believe the marriage is ever completely repairable. There will always be some level of mistrust and uneasiness on the part of the offended spouse. In addition, you also have to take into consideration that as a professional athlete our kids look up to and admire them. You have to ask what this type of behavior is teaching our children. With notoriety comes responsibility.

There is never a valid excuse for cheating. If you're not happy there are allot of options out there to help and to ignore them, especially when children are involved in the mess is unforgivable. Because no matter what, the children always loose.

Lastly, the player when thinking about cheating needs to keep his career in mind. With professional sports being as competitive as they are there are dozens of other athletes waiting in line to take his place. I would think that rather than risk the bad press that comes with situations similar to this his team would rather cut their losses and distance themselves from the problem as quickly as possible. Once the player is marked by such a scandal other teams would be reluctant to pick him up and he is now limited to coaching at some out of the way high school for the rest of his life.

In closing I would just like to say that while the temptations are out there and there are many, anyone thinking about cheating needs to sit back and take a moment to think it through. Just what do you have to loose and what kind of pain are you going to cause. You can always justify it by saying "I won't get caught," but I am telling you there are professional investigators out there and you will never know when one of us is looking over your shoulder, camera in hand. The longer an affair goes on the more likely you are to get caught and the more damage it will do, to your spouse, your children, your fans, and your career.

Daniel Blake, LPI, CPP
President, Aegis Security, LLC